Sunday, December 28, 2008

2008-12-27 Sledding at Soldier Hollow


We enjoyed a couple of hours of tubing at Soldier Hollow with the Ford family, the Christensen family, the Conley family, the Seager family and the Peterson family (Janet Peterson is Mom's quilting and racquetball friend.) It was 10 degrees, but the sun was shining and it didn't seem too cold. After tubing we shared hot chocolate, chili, chicken noodle soup, rolls, and cookies.

2008-12-24 Thomas family breakfast

For the third (or fourth?) year we held Granny's traditional Christmas Eve breakfast at Melissa's ward building. The Fords did all the set up and much of the clean up. We had a good turn out. As usual I bought too much stuff for pancakes and we came home with a ton of buttermilk. LaRue and Louise turn 78 years old in February. None of Louise's children or grandchildren came, but all of LaRue's came except for Julie (She lives in Chicago.). Laurel and Kim and their children and grandchildren were there; Janet and her daughter Lisa and grandson Jesse came. (Jason lives in Seattle.) Fred and Andrean were in Florida with Jackson. Bill was sick, but Kandace came with all her children and grandchildren (a first).

2008-12-22 Grandchildren Sleepover

We had eleven grandchildren overnight for a Christmas slumber party. We toured the neighborhood in the back of the truck to see the lights, we played basketball and other games at the church, we had a great dinner, Christmas stories and a Christmas movie. Santa came for a visit. The grandchildren went to sleep way too late, making for miserable children during the rest of the holidays, I think.

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

2008 Christmas Lights



We have some professional lighting this year. Coray, as the Christensen's Christmas gift, put up these lights on Thanksgiving Day. This really puts us in the Christmas spirit when we drive up to our house.

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

2008 Christmas Calendar



Of course this is always subject to change.

2008 Christmas letter


Here is the letter we will send with our Christmas cards:

Merry Christmas from Paula and Tom!

We received two new grandchildren during 2008, and we recognize the hand of the Lord in their safe arrival. We also had four grandchildren start kindergarten. Nothing gives us greater joy than to see our children nurture our grandchildren. This year has been challenging with two of our children trying to sell homes during our nation’s current financial downturn. We were asked by our president-elect during the campaign if we were better off than we were four years ago. Of course, we are better off, with too many blessings to count – but we, like most people, are worse off financially. Money isn’t everything.
Here is a brief summary of our family:
Melissa and Michael Ford (http://www.m4dfamily.blogspot.com/) live in Salt Lake City with Thomas (14), Joshua (10), Benjamin (8) and Jack (6). They purchased a new home in the neighborhood of their dreams, but they need to sell their old home before they can make the changes and updates that the new home requires. Michael works doing legal defense. Melissa is a full time caregiver and Primary president, and she won her first election to public office. Benjamin was baptized in February, and Thomas had a successful football season leading the East High School Bantams to the conference championship. Joshua leads his soccer team in goals, and Jack started kindergarten. Melissa’s youngest started school!
Mindy and Coray Christensen (http://corayandmindy.blogspot.com/) live in Highland, Utah with Jonathan (10), Abby (8), Will (5), and Sarah (2). Coray works for the company that purchased his software business. Mindy ran her first triathlon. We are proud of her accomplishment. Jonathan scored many touchdowns on his Lone Peak football team. Abby was baptized in May! Will started kindergarten. Sarah warms her grandparents’ hearts.
In May, Brian and Natalie (http://www.littlenan.blogspot.com/) were blessed to have Greta join Elsa (6) and Ava (4). They live in Indianapolis, but Brian started working for Novian, a medical device company based in Chicago. They are trying to sell their home so they can relocate. In the meantime Brian commutes to Chicago and has become an expert in breast cancer because Novian’s technology promises to remove breast tumors without surgery. Elsa started kindergarten, and Ava learned to water ski!
Melanie and Jeff Conley (http://familyconley.blogspot.com/) moved to Colorado Springs with Andrew (7), Elizabeth (5) and Anna (3). Melanie gave birth to Eden, our 19th grandchild, in September. Jeff started his own small business accounting firm, and teaches early morning seminary. Melanie home schools Andrew and chauffeurs everyone to their various classes and games. Andrew returned to his piano studies, Elizabeth started kindergarten and can do 11 pull-ups at gymnastics! Anna started her first pre-school class.
Michelle and Hans Egbert (http://michelleandhans.blogspot.com/ ) live in Colorado Springs with Ashley (6), Katelyn (4), Justin (2), and Mia (1). Hans’s new dental practice is growing well, and Michelle balances family management with her biking, running and other fitness hobbies. Ashley is the best artist in the first grade, Katelyn does gymnastics. Justin wants a red truck like Grandpa’s. Mia learned how to walk.
Paula and Tom continue to work and play while we serve our family of 19 grandchildren. We try to visit them often, and we enjoy travel with friends and family including a long trip to China in October and November.
We loving hearing from you, we wish you all a joyous Christmas season and a prosperous New Year!

Thursday, November 20, 2008

What Happy People Don’t Do



Happy people spend a lot of time socializing, going to church and reading newspapers — but they don’t spend a lot of time watching television, a new study finds.

That’s what unhappy people do.

Although people who describe themselves as happy enjoy watching television, it turns out to be the single activity they engage in less often than unhappy people, said John Robinson, a professor of sociology at the University of Maryland and the author of the study, which appeared in the journal Social Indicators Research.

While most large studies on happiness have focused on the demographic characteristics of happy people — factors like age and martial status — Dr. Robinson and his colleagues tried to identify what activities happy people engage in. The study relied primarily on the responses of 45,000 Americans collected over 35 years by the University of Chicago’s General Social Survey, and on published “time diary” studies recording the daily activities of participants.

“We looked at 8 to 10 activities that happy people engage in, and for each one, the people who did the activities more — visiting others, going to church, all those things — were more happy,” Dr. Robinson said. “TV was the one activity that showed a negative relationship. Unhappy people did it more, and happy people did it less.”

But the researchers could not tell whether unhappy people watch more television or whether being glued to the set is what makes people unhappy. “I don’t know that turning off the TV will make you more happy,” Dr. Robinson said.

Still, he said, the data show that people who spend the most time watching television are least happy in the long run.

Since the major predictor of how much time is spent watching television is whether someone works or not, Dr. Robinson added, it’s possible that rising unemployment will lead to more TV time.

By RONI CARYN RABIN
Published: November 19, 2008

Saturday, November 15, 2008

2008-11 Trip to China


We enjoyed 17 days in China - it was no vacation, more like a road race. We were joined by the Lindleys, Thelers, Seals and Buckners, and we all got along well. I took nearly 1000 photos, but I won't post them all.

Monday, October 20, 2008

2008-10-11 Quilt Show



Paula had a few quilts displayed at the biannual quilt show for her quilting club. She worked at the show displaying quilts and selling items to raise money for the Road Home, a homeless shelter for single women and their children who leave their partners to avoid violence. The show raised $8,000 or so.

2008-10-17 Study Group

We took this photo to send to the McConkies who are in South Carolina for 3 years serving a mission. We've been meeting together monthly for 12 year or so with this group. On Friday we met at our house for dinner and some gospel study.

2008-10-16 Joan Debry and Bob Horton tie the knot


After 8 years of dating Bob Horton (75 years old) and Joan Debry (70 years old) married in the Manti temple.

We play pinocle with Joan and Bob once a month, along with Jan and John Martin who invited us to join the group and Chris and 'Hob' Hobson.

I took these photos with my cell phone - hence the poor quality.

2008-10-03 Chicago and Indianapolis

We spent conference weekend in Indianapolis with Brian and Natalie. We flew to Chicago and stayed in Brian's apartment for a night. He brought bikes for us to ride along Lake Michigan, which we did and enjoyed. We took a canal tour through the skyscrapers, and then drove to Indianpolis for the weekend.

Friday, October 10, 2008

2008-10-10 Remodel



We're finished with the remodel, and we like the way it turned out. One issue was matching the paint inside - and I think that worked out fine.

Friday, September 26, 2008

2008-09-26 Our friends are getting old

Bob Short is my first high school friend to turn 60 years old. Somehow we have kept in touch for the past 50 years.

2008-09-25 Melissa has a birthday

When Melissa was born 3X years ago it changed our lives forever (better). She has brought us much joy, and we love her with all our hearts.

Thursday, September 25, 2008

2008-09-19 Pikes Peak

I went with Andrew, Ashley, Elizabeth and Katelyn on the cog wheel train to the summit of Pikes Peak. There was snow and it was a long train ride for the little ones. I enjoyed the views.

2008-09-14 Eden Grace Conley



Eden was born on September 14, 2008 at 12:09 pm. I was speaking in church while Grandma held her cell phone close by just in case Melanie or Jeff should call with the news. We went to visit after a couple of days.

2008-09-12 Scout Jamboral


I served as the quartermaster for district 25 at the scout jamboral. Thomas and Michael came for Friday evening. Our ward's boy scouts were selected to eat breakfast with the general authority celebrities.

Thursday, September 4, 2008

2008-09-03 Ian Barrett is baptized

Ian Barrett, our neighbor next to Seagers, was baptized last night. His mom, Kathy, was baptized a couple of years ago, but he has resisted. A week ago he decided to attend our ward services and the catholic church and afterwards decided to be baptized.

2008-09 Grandchildren starting school



This photo of Elizabeth, Will and Jack (and Abby, Benjamin and Andrew) was taken in our kitchen in March 2004. Now in 2008 Elizabeth, Will and Jack along with Elsa have started kindergarten. We've had some fun stories of these four grandchildren starting kindergarten. Elsa thought that her teacher wasn't wearing underwear (she had her clothes packed in boxes). Elizabeth was frightened of the fire drill. Will's teacher pulled out a guitar and played some silly songs after Mindy coached Will not be be silly in class. Jack started yesterday and I haven't heard yet what his day brought.

Thursday, August 28, 2008

2008-08-27 Rolfes and Heaths


Kerry Rolfe and I serve as counselors to Clint Cannon. Sharon and Kerry live across the creek from us. This picture was taken at a YM/YW activity at the World's swimming pool.

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

2008-08-27 Our remodeling has started (finally)



We wanted a larger window to match the exterior arch, but we got a window with a different shape. Now we are changing the arch to match the window.

Saturday, August 23, 2008

2008-08-23 Mindy runs a triathalon


Mindy finished in about 2 hr and 17 minutes. It was a sunny, hot and sweaty day. It was wonderful to see Mindy set and achieve her goal to 1) not drown, 2) complete the triathalon, and 3) finish in about 2 hours.

2008-08-17 Celebrating Roylance women's birthdays


Corinne turned 60 on July 24, Grandma Roylance reached 82 on August 12, Shelley celebrated 56 years on August 17, the day of the party, and Paula turned 58 on August 23.

Monday, August 18, 2008

2008-08-07 Hole-in-One at Soldier Hollow Golf Course


My neighbor and golfing friend, Ray Goodson, hit a hole-in-one on number 16 of the Gold Course at Soldier Hollow. We know this hole well since we tube down this golf course in the winter. With the hole-in-one he won a Porshe SUV worth $55,000. This is the first hole-in-one I ever witnessed.

Sunday, August 10, 2008

2008-08-09 University 2nd Branch Reunion



We enjoyed socializing with people in our married student ward from our time at University Village in 1974 - 1976. We look younger than most. The group of folks at the reunion were mostly doctors. Patty Hintze (to the most left of Grandma) and her husband Paul came from St. Louis just for the reunion.



President Pingree served as our branch president, and I was fortunate to serve as 2nd counselor and then 1st counselor. He later served as mission president in Port Harcourt, Nigeria - a life changing experience he said.



After their Nigeria mission, Ann Pingree served as a counselor in the general relief society presidency for 5 years.

Tuesday, August 5, 2008

2008-08-05 Learning to Be Your Own Best Defense in a Disaster

Take the disaster quiz at http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2008/08/04/health/20080805_WELLQUIZ.html#

If you are physically fit, don't panic, have practiced emergency drills so you know how to act - then you are more likely to fare well in a disaster.

August 5, 2008
By TARA PARKER-POPE of the NY Times

How prepared are you for an emergency? One sign is your behavior during the office fire drill. Do you stop working and make the walk down the stairs to the exit? Or do you stay at your desk, ignoring the alarm and pleadings of the security staff?

I confess to being one of those employees who has routinely blown off the fire drill. But it was at my own peril. During the Sept. 11 terrorist attacks, my offices in the World Financial Center were evacuated, but I didn’t have a clue how to get out because I had never used the stairs during a drill. Fortunately, a co-worker led the way.

Whether it’s taking part in a fire drill, getting to know your neighbors or listening to the flight attendant’s safety talk, there are several simple steps we can all take to improve our odds in an emergency. While most discussions of disaster preparedness focus on community resources, the most important variable in an emergency is your own behavior.

Much of what we know about surviving disasters comes from people who have been through them. Their stories are collected in a fascinating and useful new book, “The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes — and Why” (Crown), by Amanda Ripley, a journalist who has covered floods, fires and plane crashes for Time magazine.

“There are people walking around who have been through disasters and emergencies and have learned really interesting things,” Ms. Ripley said. “I’m always amazed by their stories, but that’s not part of our national conversation about emergency preparedness and homeland security.”

In addition to talking to survivors, Ms. Ripley also delves into the science of disaster preparedness and survival. One of the main lessons is that panic, denial and fear may be inevitable during a disaster, but your brain will perform best in a stressful situation if you have already put it through a few rehearsals.

That’s why the fire drill is so important. You need to make the walk down the stairs to the exit so that your brain can store the physical memory of the experience.

“Your brain works by pattern recognition, and when it’s in an extremely frightening situation it sorts through a database for a script,” Ms. Ripley said. “It’s important to get into the stairs and actually go down them. Your brain relies on that memory and responds to it much more quickly and fully than words.”

A surprisingly common disaster behavior is the tendency to stick around and gather things. Whether it’s a building fire or a plane emergency, people often move surprisingly slowly and find reasons to delay evacuation. Ms. Ripley tells the story of a woman who during the 9/11 attacks puttered around her desk and retrieved a book she was reading before leaving. Even on burning planes, where passengers have only minutes to act before smoke becomes toxic, passengers routinely open overhead bins to retrieve their bags.

But being aware of this “gathering instinct” can help you overcome it. “You need to move quickly, but it won’t be your first impulse,” Ms. Ripley said.

Crowd behavior in a disaster is also surprisingly predictable. Although there are cases of panic and stampedes, the more common response is “group think,” says Ms. Ripley. People stick together, follow one another and are civilized and painfully slow during evacuations.

People also tend to stick to their roles. Passengers listen to flight attendants; diners listen to waiters and other employees. In the Beverly Hills Supper Club fire in Southgate, Ky., in 1977, guests typically waited for instructions from staff members. In interviews after the tragedy, in which 165 people died, 60 percent of workers said they tried to help with evacuation and rescue but only 17 percent of guests said they did.

A person who takes a leadership role in a disaster will invariably be followed. In that fire, hundreds of lives were saved by a busboy who barked orders at the wealthy patrons telling them where and how to evacuate. A bride took charge of evacuating the guests at her wedding reception.

Small steps in a disaster can improve your odds. For airline passengers, count the number of rows between you and the emergency exits. In an evacuation, smoke and darkness may make it difficult to find the exit. Listen to the flight attendant and read the safety card every time so your brain is programmed to respond.

Two decades ago, Dr. Fred Helpenstell, a retired surgeon from Nampa, Idaho, survived a plane crash in Denver that killed 28 people. As he felt the plane tipping, Dr. Helpenstell assumed the crash position, protecting his head as his section of the plane was crushed. “The one thing on the card is the crash position — getting your hands up over your head, tucking your head down and getting ready to roll,” Dr. Helpenstell said. “I don’t know if it was technically necessary, but it’s a good reflex.”

There are ways to prepare for more common threats like fires, floods and other emergencies. Take part in evacuation drills at work and at home. Make a habit of changing batteries in your smoke detector on a schedule, like the first of the month or every time you change the nearest light bulb. And get to know your neighbors, who can be a valuable resource in emergencies.

“You have to feel like you are an agent in your own survival,” Ms. Ripley says. “You and your co-workers and neighbors are going to be there, not homeland security paratroopers. The more confidence you have before the event happens, the less debilitating the fear will be and the better your performance will be.”

2008-08-03 Dressed up like a cowgirl



We went to a Huntsman Cancer Center fundraiser dinner with Margie and Randy Burt. We had to dress up like cowpokes for the event.

2008-07 Glenwood Springs

We spent 4 nights at Glenwood Springs, CO with all our children, their spouses and their children. There were 30 of us in all. It was fun to associate with people we love and admire. At the top of the mountain we toured the cave. The cave was the highlight for a few grandchildren.

We hiked to the falls at Hanging Lake and had ample photo opportunities.
We rode the tram to the top of the mountain and then some were able to ride the mountain coaster and zip line.
Paula enjoyed hugging her grandchildren.

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

2008-07-16 Natalie Elsa Ava Greta come for a visit

Natalie arrived a week before Brian. They have pretty much stayed around our home - it's taken Greta a while to adjust to the new surroundings.
Greta looks and sounds a lot like Elsa. She is the girl of many faces and she will stick out her tongue at me if I stick out my tongue at her.

2008-07-18 Suzanne Seal's 60th birthday

Greg Seal surprized Suzanne for her 60th birthday. Grandma is standing with Valerie Lindley, Lynne Buckner and Suzanne.

2008-07-15 Will turns 5

We had a fun party to celebrate Will's 5th birthday. Mindy brought a blow-up water slide and we had pizza and cake. Will said he is getting old - he needs a cane now. Will has a sense of humor. He's still working on the camera smile.

2008-07-14 Tending the Christensens

We enjoyed the Christensen children while Mindy and Coray were in Chicago for Linda Christensen's 60th birthday party. Doug Christensen was hospitalized so Linda and Doug missed the party. Mindy's flight to Chicago was delayed and she spent a night in Atlanta. She spent an extra day in Chicago because her flight back to SLC was canceled. Abby, Will and Jonathan made the channel 13 news on Saturday while we were at the This is the Place Heritage Park.

Health 'Facts' You Only Thought You Knew


July 22, 2008

By JANE E. BRODY
In 45 years of writing about medicine and health, I’ve heard more than my share of myths and misinformation, from the merely nonsensical to the downright dangerous. And until I explored the evidence, I too occasionally fell for a “fact” that turned out to be less than met the eye.

Lately a number of medical writers have taken on these commonplaces and old wives’ tales.

Last year, Anahad O’Connor, who does so every week in his “Really?” column for Science Times, published “Never Shower in a Thunderstorm: Surprising Facts and Misleading Myths About Our Health and the World We Live In” (Times Books).

Now, Dr. Nancy L. Snyderman, a surgical oncologist at the University of Pennsylvania and a medical correspondent for NBC News, has a new book, “Medical Myths That Can Kill You — And the 101 Truths That Will Save, Extend, and Improve Your Life” (Crown).

The following myths owe something to both authors, and also to my own research. How well informed are you?

DRINK EIGHT GLASSES OF WATER A DAY I had long believed that eight glasses of plain water or caffeine-free beverages a day were important to keep the body hydrated and to prevent constipation. Perhaps the toilet paper manufacturers were behind this notion. Researchers have been unable to find scientific support for it.

The Institute of Medicine recently noted that you can meet your body’s need for liquids in many ways, including drinking coffee and tea (with or without caffeine) and eating fruits and vegetables with a high water content. Two clues that you may need to drink more are thirst and the color of your urine, which should be clear like, well, water.

If you are physically very active, especially in hot weather, repeatedly sipping cold water is helpful. But beyond two quarts, you may need to also replace the salts lost in sweat — for example, by drinking a diluted sports drink or eating foods with salt and potassium.

POISON IVY IS CONTAGIOUS The rash of poison ivy cannot be spread from person to person or even to another part of the body unless the plant’s resin is still on your hands or clothes. The rash, a contact dermatitis, may seem to spread because it often develops sequentially, depending on when and where the skin was exposed. Scratching does not spread the rash but can prolong it and cause an infection.

Over-the-counter anti-itch lotions and creams are not helpful, and those containing an antihistamine, like Benadryl, may complicate matters by causing an allergic reaction. The rash is best treated with a steroid, topically with hydrocortisone or, in more severe cases, orally with prednisone. Apply a cool wet wash cloth to oozing blisters to speed drying.

Mango skin contains a less potent form of urushiol, the allergen in poison ivy, and you can develop a rash around the mouth if you eat the flesh off the rind.

Those who think they are immune to poison ivy should know that sensitivity develops through repeated exposure.

USE COTTON SWABS TO CLEAN YOUR EARS Bellybuttons, perhaps, but not ears. My son wishes he had known this years ago, before his 2-year-old son copied his dad and punctured his eardrum with a Q-tip. The hole was so big it needed surgical repair.

Dr. Snyderman points out that a cotton swab can push wax farther into the ear, causing impaction and diminished hearing. I’ve long supported the medical adage: Put nothing smaller than an elbow in your ear. If accumulated wax is a problem, try ear wax softening drops or have your ears professionally cleaned now and then.

DON’T SWIM AFTER EATING My parents repeatedly warned us to wait an hour after a meal. It might have been good advice if I was planning to race, swim a long distance or battle a stiff current. Strenuous exercise on a full stomach is never a good idea, because it can result in stomach or muscle cramps. But experts find no harm in a gentle plunge or casual play in the water (pool or ocean) soon after eating.

What can be hazardous is swimming after drinking alcohol, because it can impair judgment and encourage undue risk-taking.

SHAVING MAKES HAIR GROW BACK FASTER AND COARSER This myth persists even though a study conducted 80 years ago disproved it. Hair that is shaved is dead, and shaving has no effect on the speed of regrowth, which comes from the living hair follicles below the skin’s surface. The new growth may appear darker since it hasn’t been exposed to the sun or chemicals for very long. Also, it may seem coarser since the ends have not been tapered by wear and tear.

COLON CLEANSING WASHES OUT POISONS Colonics, as the practice is called, has no known medical value and risks damage to the rectum or bowel. The bowel is not “dirty” and, unless disease or medication interfere, nature does a fine job of clearing out wastes. If you are concerned about unwholesome substances in your body, drink lots of water to help your body get rid of them.

NATURAL IS SAFER THAN MAN-MADE A woman recently asked me if it was safe to take “bioidentical hormone replacements.” These, I’m afraid, are estrogens, and there is no reliable evidence to support claims that they are safer than the ones made by chemists that have been linked to an increased risk of cancer and heart disease.

Remember, nature has produced some of the most dangerous substances known, including arsenic and botulinum toxin. And chemists have produced medications that can control or cure many life-threatening ills. Many important medications are derived from natural substances that not only have druglike actions but also druglike side effects.

Only carefully controlled clinical trials can assure the safety of a natural or man-made drug, and few natural substances have been tested in this way.

TAKE PAINKILLERS ONLY FOR SERIOUS PAIN In a doctor’s waiting room the other day, a woman sat groaning for an hour and a half before she finally asked the nurse for an over-the-counter pain pill to relieve her headache. Although many people see pills as the answer to every ill, others avoid medications at all costs, much to their disadvantage.

Pain medication works best if taken at the first hint of pain, and may not work well at all if you wait too long. Dr. Snyderman says to consider taking it before engaging in an activity, like heavy-duty gardening or chopping wood, that is likely to cause pain later. Before I had my arthritic knees replaced, I downed two ibuprofen tablets before every tennis match.

Saturday, July 5, 2008

2008-07-04 Ward July 4 breakfast



We had about 300 folks at the ward breakfast. I made Granny's pancakes and other members of the bishopric and activities committee cooked and served scrambled eggs, bacon and hash browned potatoes with the pancakes. The kids did a bicycle parade.

2008-07-02 YM steak dinner



Dee Benson bought steaks and the YM leaders grilled them at Benson's house. It was about the best steak I have had in a long time.

2008-06-21 Youth Conference


I spent Friday at Raging Waters and Saturday at a care facility for our youth conference. There were 15 boys and 24 girls. Elder Jack Goaslind (father of our YM's president) spoke to the group on Friday night.

Tuesday, June 3, 2008

2008-05-24 Indy 500


Brian, Natalie, Ava, Grandma and I went the Indianapolis Race Track and watched a 100 mile race run the day before the famous Indy 500. The cars were loud and fast - over 200 mph.